Going Low or No Contact With My Narcissistic Mother (And Enabling Father)

In my last post I described how my parents think my husband and I are price gouging my son on the sale of our house to him. They also plan to give him a large amount of money "to keep his mortgage payments low". As it was, the mortgage would have been less than $500 per month, which he can well afford.

I've been reading a great deal about narcissistic mothers over the last couple weeks. In addition, my husband and I have left their house and moved over 1,000 miles away. After a week, my mother sent an email asking how we are doing and where we are (we are in a RV). I wrote back telling her where we were headed. She responded by asking where my husband had taken her dry cleaning.

What?

Not even a "that's nice"? "Why are you going there?"

I wrote back and told her where her precious dry cleaning was and she said thanks. I deleted that message and don't plan to send any others any time soon, though I do have a couple of financial dealings to take care of with her.

It's funny that I want to go no contact, but I also don't have the courage to say to them (N mom and Enabling Father) that I don't want to have any contact with them. And there's still the fact that there are some financial issues and some of our possessions are at their house.

The dry cleaning thing really threw me for a loop. Why would that be her response? But then I realized that since the whole world revolves around her, the only issue that my absence brings is that she needs someone to pick up her dry cleaning. (Of course, my husband made sure to pick it up before we left just so she couldn't bitch about it. That was probably a pointless exercise since she'll always find something to bitch about.)

What freaks me out is how scared I am of her. How I check my email waiting for her to rant about something.

Then I have to ask myself why I would care about that?  Well, for one thing, it would hurt for her to rant at me. But she's also a horrible person. The worst. I believe that now, though it's still hard to get my head around 100%. 

How long can I go w/o contacting them before they contact me. Do I have to respond? What is it that I'm hoping they will say?

When my husband and I left, we told them we were heading to a friend's house. My dad got choked up when we said good-bye. I think he knew we weren't coming back. It made me sad and still does when I think about it. And then I think about the horrible things he said the house sale to my son.

And, was he sad I was leaving or sad that now he's alone w/my N mom.

While we were there, they got along better. I assume we were the common enemy. Part of me wants to know what is going on now and part of me doesn't care. Or at least doesn't want to care.

This is a rambling post. Sorry. I'm just trying to wrap my head around all that has happened in the last two weeks.