Narcissists Spoil Your Special Days

Yesterday I told my parents that my husband and I are going to be able to fulfill a long time dream of ours. You'd think they'd be happy for us. They said they were.

And then they said that I'm price gouging my son on the sale of my house to him. Followed by how I overpaid for the house and lots of other charming comments.

Amazingly, I just kept my cool and listened. I did defend a little bit but realized it was pointless and stopped.

My husband, wisely, left the room.

They said these things, my parents mind you, while smiling and as though they were commenting on the weather rather than their daughter's character.

It was the most freaky thing I've seen in a long time, though I suspect there will be more before this ordeal is over.

So...what was supposed to be an announcement that should have been greeted with excitement for us was turned into a bash session where they annhilated my character.

Wow.

I'm so glad that I read about narcissists and learned so much, though I'm still learning, before this happened and I was able to put it into perspective.

No, I didn't just laugh all day long at their silliness. For most of the day I felt nauseaus.

But I'm doing better now. I'm glad I didn't vent my spleet at them because it would have done no good and it would have provided the drama and narcissistic supply my mother wanted.

In fact, a short time afterward, when I continued my day as planned she became very chatty. Asked me questions about our plans. Asked if I might like to use some of her eye salve since I spend so much time on the computer...seriously, how deep did she have to dig to find that as a topic of conversation?

But, I think she was disappointed that I didn't create drama or react to their crappy statements and behavior.

So maybe being calm is the best revenge.