Is It Better To Be The Golden Child?

I'm not sure.

Since I've never been on the top of the heap, I have no idea how that feels.

On the other hand, I think the odds of a Golden Child realizing that their mother/father is a narcissist is probably pretty slim, and it seems like that would make it difficult for the Golden Child to grow.

It sucks being the scapegoat and as I've looked back at more incidents from my life, it not only sucks, but it's painful. Very painful.

But, out of the pain comes the possibility of thinking "is this how it's supposed to be?" which can lead to healing and that makes me think that in the long run being the scapegoat is better.

What do you think?