Is There Such A Thing As A Generous Narcissist?

Of course not!

Sure, they might do things that appear generous, but it is all done for the sake of attention and praise for themselves.

Ask yourself this...have you ever known a narcissists to give an anonymous gift?

Have you ever heard them complain (or been the subject of their rage) because someone did not appreciate their gift?

If they are giving a gift that will be viewed by others (like at a birthday party or bridal shower) do they give a more elaborate gift than if they were simply dropping something off at the recipient's house?

And what about their checkbook? Do they use it like a weapon? My father had a very successful career so my mother has had much more money than most of her peers (well, in her mind she has no peers, but you know what I mean). When I was a kid, I always wished I could be like the other kids and sort of blend in. Isn't that funny? When other kids brought in pretty simple cookies or cupcakes to school for their birthdays, I was jealous. I always had something that was just a little bit better/nicer than the average kid. And it tended to draw attention to the fact that we had more.

Now, I grew up in a small midwestern town in the 60s and 70s, so maybe it's different now and everyone has fancy treats for school.

Of course, she never asked what I wanted to bring. She just decided and I went along with it.

Oooops. I digress. Let's get back to generosity and narcissists.

My mother is currently making homemade jam, which is very tasty. That's nice. But, will she donate it to the local food pantry or day care center? No, she'll give it as gifts to people. Of course they will be grateful because it's yummy and quite a treat. But is she being generous? Not really. Because each recipient will be subjected to a long story about how she made the jam and probably another story or two about something vaguely related. So, in order to get your jam, you have to pay proper homage. No cash changes hands, but she'll happily take a chunk of your time and if possible, a bit of your soul.