Things That Are A Waste of Time

Trying to get a narcissist to like you, particularly if they have already decided they don't.

Waiting for a narcissist to change.

Waiting for a narcissist to apologize. Sincerely.

Trying to impress a narcissists with your accomplishments.

Waiting for a narcissist to approve of you.

Explaining anything to a narcissist.

Buying a gift for a narcissists.

Trying to head off their rage, because no matter what you do, it will still erupt, usually for a reason you could have never predicted or prevented anyway.

Trying to convince them that the Golden Child isn't so golden.

Waiting for them to ask your opinion on anything, other than in an obvious attempt to make you compliment them.

Waiting for a narcissist to admit they are wrong. Or that anyone else could be right.

Waiting for you narcissist mother to compliment your appearance. Or notice any changes.

Waiting for a narcissists to ask about you.

Trying to talk them into being reasonable.

Defending anyone or anything that they have decided is wrong.

Waiting for a narcissist to be responsible for themselves and their needs.

Trying to convince an enabling spouse of a narcissists that they are married to a narcissist.

Encouraging an enabling spouse to stand up to a narcissists.

Trying to talk about anything other than what the narcissist wants to talk about. (Usually themselves).

Correcting a narcissist.

Thinking that if you pay attention to the narcissist now, you won't have to later.